3rd May 2012
Welcome to the Alphabet series! Every other week we will be tackling a letter of the alphabet and connecting that letter with a physical, emotional and/or spiritual ailment that impacts us individually and as a community. We will gather as many recipes, rituals, remedies and resources as we can to support the healing of these ailments. This is not by any means a comprehensive list, but a working list of possible things that can reinforce and engage healing. Please be sure to consult your doctor/practitioner/spiritual guide/intuition before using and as you use any of these therapies. We are all different and respond uniquely to various healing methods. Its important to only use what is meant for you specifically. We started of the series with A is for Anger, followed by B is for Burnout. Lets continue with the letter C. C is for Conflict.
“Peace is not the absence of conflict but the presence of creative alternatives for responding to conflict --
alternatives to passive or aggressive responses, alternatives to violence.”
“Conflict can be seen as a gift of energy, in which neither side loses and a new dance is created.”
Life is an ever expansive learning experience and dealing with conflict is an inescapable part of the ride. That’s right!!!No matter how much we try to run, hide, bend, coerce, disguise the conflict that creeps into our lives, we inevitably have to deal with it. As a former professional conflict avoider, I can tell you that there is no place that you can hide where conflict won’t find you. I mean you could hide but the outcome is not always as healthy and we end up prolonging the experience we are trying to move away from in the first place. (Un)fortunately, our past experiences with our parents, loved ones, partners, colleagues, God, have created specific habit patterns in conflict resolution. Many of us, throughout our lives, learn that our opinions don’t matter, or have been punished for expressing how we feel, so the idea of confronting someone else feels daunting. Many of us also haven’t given ourselves enough spaces to speak and hear our own truths. So when conflict arises, we have a difficult time naming what is wrong with us or confuse our feelings with someone else’s.